It has been a while since I posted anything on here. My apologies. I just feel right now, there is a lot I need to get off my chest. Something that has been lurking around recently is the fact that my pops has lung cancer. It has been pretty tough, but nobody would know that just from talking to me to seeing me in public. Not a lot of people outside of family know he has it, and it will probably stay that way even when he is better. I’m not the type of person that expresses my “feelings”. I don’t care for people being sympathetic towards me because I don’t want people feeling “sorry”. Over the course of these past few months, I just couldn’t help but be inspired by my pops “I’m going to beat the shit out of it” attitude. Seeing my dad go through this, made me think of one quote. “There are two important days in your life. The day you were born and the day you find out why.” I still have yet to determine the why, but if I can do what my dad has done and impact so many people’s lives in a good way as much as he has, then I will die a happy man. I’ve learned that life has so many curveballs and throws so much shit at you, but I still believe that everything happens for a reason. This shit is happening to him and us for a reason, and even though it may not be apparent now, something positive will come out of this. Hell, it definitely brought our family a hell of a lot closer.
The main thing about life is to always maintain a positive outlook on everything. Sometimes shit will be rough and hard, but that is where we define ourselves as human beings. We can choose to use these obstacles as building blocks or stumbling stones. Whichever route we choose will ultimately determine the course of our future.
More to come…
I over heard this argument one day about someone arguing about life and death. He proposed the question, “why are we alive.” I made sure my blunt voice was heard when i said “self-actualization.” He looked at me with a facial expression that I will never forget. He asked me why I said that (which I’m glad he did).
I explained to him my thoughts on it which, to make a long story short, is to discover who we are.
I don’t know about you, but I go on living each day to discover who I really am. It is easy to say the positives about ourselves, but a lot harder to come to terms with the negatives. When you are able to accomplish that, then you truly are a self actualization human being. This process though, takes a lifetime.
Everybody is created differently, and that is what make us so unique. My idea of being alive is simply living. Living in the notion of experiencing life for what it is. Stepping outside of your comfort zone, implementing new ideas, being better than you were the day before, experiencing new facets of life, but most importantly, bringing the best out of you each and everyday that you can.
We are here to live up to our potential. How are we going to know what our potential is unless we push ourselves in every aspect of life. School, work, the gym, etc. You will never know what you are made of unless you try. Fail. Make mistakes. That is perfectly ok. This is what makes you. Learning from failure will better improve you. It will make you stronger. It will make you wiser. It will make u a better person.
As Bruce Lee would say, ” don’t pray for an easy life. Pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.”
I hope all this makes sense as I am a little bit drunk while writing this but my thoughts had to come out. I promise to write more about this when I am sober.
To me, there is no such thing as perfection. It is more of a motivator, trying to be the best you possibly can each and every day. Nothing in this world is perfect, including people. If you are one of those people that consider yourself to be “perfect,” you are not and you need to shut the hell up. Everybody has flaws and that is what make us all unique in our own ways. Embrace those flaws. Be who you really are and if people can’t accept you for you, then they can screw themselves. I have many flaws myself. For one, I am short. I am 5’5. People tend to underestimate me because of that and I love to prove them wrong and use their judgments as fuel for my success. I have a habit of getting attached to people because I care a lot about people in general. Because of that, it has put me in painful situations, which has also made me a stronger person. I make mistakes everyday which I learn from and use it to excel in what I am doing. I get paranoid about certain things, like money, but if I wasn’t then I would not be as financially stable as I am today. My list can go on and on but the important factor is that I do not let people try to change me. I have been down that road before, and It is not one I want to go down again.
I am a huge fan of Bruce Lee if you can’t tell already. His words of wisdom are one of a kind, and this is one quote I have been thinking about. I like to interpret his quotes into ways of life and then finally it hit me. Would you rather be mediocre at several things or be the best you can be and possibly perfect what you are best at. Perfect your talents and be the best you can be because with hard work and motivation, comes opportunity.
So, I am currently in my second week of The Wolverine workout. This workout is wicked. It is always good to push your body to its limits and see exactly what you can do to it. As a friend put it, your body is like a big science experiment. As long as you treat it well, you can pretty much do anything with it. If you don’t like the results, then you can always change it back to what it was as long as you put in the hard work and effort. That is why I decided to try this workout. I have never been one to follow routines, but I just thought what the heck. What is the worst that can happen. So I decided to do it. Along with following this workout, I decided to change my diet up as well. Exercising is just part of the transformation process of your body. Nutrition is the other part….a HUGE part. You do not eat right, according to what goal you are trying to achieve, then you will not be able to achieve your full potential. For those that are interested, here is the link to the website in which The Wolverine workout is listed. I encourage those who are willing to try something different to attempt it, at least for 4 weeks. It will not only test your physical strength, but your mental strength as well.
On another note, I would like to express something that I have been reading about on a man called Joe Manganiello. For those of you that watch True Blood, he is Alcide. He said something in a magazine that just got me thinking. He was talking about how back in the day, people had the tendency to always hold back a little bit in whatever it is they were doing. To still leave a little bit in the tank in case something unexpected happened. Of course, the people he was referring to were cavemen type people who had to fight and kill for their food. They would always keep a little energy inside just in case a wild animal attacked them. People tend to think like this in the gym or in whatever sport or exercise they may doing. They would want to keep a little energy inside…just in case. Well guess what, nothing is going to happen. Nothing is going to attack you. Don’t worry about saving strength for when you are done with your exercising, but instead, use it during your workouts. Again, as Joe stated, you want to give every set and every rep your full effort so that when the next set comes, your thinking “how am I going to be able to pull out these next 10 reps.” That is what makes you stronger, not just physically, but mentally as well.
Self confidence is vital in your journey to success. Without it, it will enable people to walk all over you. You will never be able to achieve your full potential. Confidence in yourself will help attain insurmountable levels of satisfaction and with that confidence, it will enable you to work harder and push yourself more an more each day. That is what my tattoo means. I have had my struggles in the past with confidence, but honestly, the one thing that helped me boost it was the gym. Not only do I look better an people see me differently (in a good way), but I also feel better about myself. The discipline I put on myself with my workouts has made its way into the rest of my life and benefited me in a good way. Your visualization of any sort of success comes through the confidence of yourself.